We need a new word: spouses of trans people are more than just allies
I was a trans ally before my husband came out as transgender. We were allies together, and have been for years, after escaping decades of...
Jul 14, 2022
Partnering through transition: Managing Shifts in Sexual Interaction
The passage below is excerpted from Reaching for Hope: Strategies and support for the partners of transgender people. Managing Shifts in...
Jul 8, 2022
Supporting Transgender Loved Ones: Creating Rites of Passage
For Declan's 59th birthday (his first after coming out as transgender) I staged an "it's a boy!" party, with blue decorations and male...
Jul 7, 2022
When a loved one comes out as trans: BELIEVE THEM
The entry below is an excerpt from my upcoming book Holding on to Hope: Help for friends and family of transgender people. It's a similar...
Jun 27, 2022
The river of bodies to come now that Roe vs Wade is dead
I once dreamt I was standing on the bank of a wide, smooth river, and fully formed babies floated and bobbed along the surface, all of...
Jun 24, 2022
Gender Identification in the Talmud
The entry below is an excerpt from TRANSFIGURED. When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God. He created them male and...
Jun 6, 2022
Partnering through transition: Listen More Than You Talk
The passage below is excerpted from The Bottom Line section of Reaching for Hope: Strategies and support for the partners of transgender...
May 19, 2022
To those who keep calling us "groomers"
Two weeks ago I was the guest preacher at Allendale United Methodist Church in St. Petersburg, Florida. Last Sunday the church was...
May 6, 2022
Good Friday's fetishization of inhumanity
I'm struggling with Holy week this year. It feels like I've removed a pair of hypocrisy-filtering sunglasses and am seeing various...
Apr 15, 2022
Starting the week with joy
It's been an extremely odd week, peppered with highs and lows from all sorts of aspects of life. We're tired, and I'm glad the weekend is...
Mar 11, 2022
