<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[wheretrueloveis]]></title><description><![CDATA[wheretrueloveis]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/blog-1</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 10 Oct 2026 14:44:42 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Let's talk about polyamory]]></title><description><![CDATA[Image by viarami from Pixabay. Christian polamory has been a hot topic in recent days. Here's a passage on the subject I wrote for the book Sex With God: Meditations on the sacred nature of sex in a post-purity-culture world. Polyamory Many stories in the Hebrew Scriptures feature men with multiple wives, but Solomon seems to be the most profligate of lovers, as mentioned in the first section of this devotional: Now king Solomon loved many foreign women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh....]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/let-s-talk-about-polyamory</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6ab2aadd703293e421746b10</guid><pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2026 16:42:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_fd04ce86b3cf4419aa96137723b45acd~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Holy Hellion: Meet Dawn Bennett]]></title><description><![CDATA[Rev. Dawn Bennett is a speaker, preacher, author, chaplain, and self-proclaimed "holy hellion." She's traveled with us via long-distance friendship through the ups and downs of life on both our end and hers, doing our shared work of speaking divine love and healing into a hurting world. We think you'll love her as much as we do, so let's jump right in to the interview! Over the past few years you experienced the painful dissolution of an innovative queer faith community (The Table) and...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/holy-hellion-meet-dawn-bennett</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aa306b9571318e8c9e249c5</guid><pubDate>Thu, 10 Sep 2026 20:08:08 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_7925b63d18084a1aba882fdb2d5990a2~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_960,h_641,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Lesbian Firsts: Karen Oliveto Changes the Face of the Methodist Bishopric ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Declan and I had the pleasure of meeting Karen Oliveto some years ago at a Reconciling Ministries Network event in Missouri. Since then we've been online friends, fans, and followers of her work: spreading love and encouraging thousands as they pushed the United Methodist Church toward full inclusion of LGBTQI+ people in the denomination. Karen has since retired, kicking off a new phase of growth and service. She joins us today to answer a few questions about her journey. In 2016, you became...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/lesbian-firsts-karen-oliveto-changes-the-face-of-the-methodist-bishopric</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a8477848cfa01baa5a0d3a6</guid><pubDate>Tue, 18 Aug 2026 15:43:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_b8e2cc587ca5462693f5c64d58952afa~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Queer Ticket to a Moment]]></title><description><![CDATA["A photograph is the pause button of life." Pictures are a return ticket to a moment that is otherwise gone. Those moments may still be tucked away in the deepest recesses of our minds. Some memories we try to forget, yet they remain a part of us. As a transgender man, pictures from my past can bring up a perplexity of emotions and thoughts. The photo above recently surfaced in my Facebook memories. My beloved remembered it too, and shared her thoughts about it, then asked for mine. Her...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/a-queer-ticket-to-a-moment</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a6ba0a22aa0dd3fa15f5af4</guid><pubDate>Thu, 30 Jul 2026 19:26:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_6cf0a1bc82bd444695ce65481d767f08~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_269,h_269,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Declan DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Embracing "queer" despite the cisgender white male complaints of Matthew Vines]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm going to say something controversial, so brace yourself: Matthew Vines is right. Don't worry, I'm not stopping there. He's right about just one thing: his position of privilege as a white cisgender gay man is eroding. That's what his article boiled down to. In case you haven't read about the controversy, the New York Times published an opinion piece by well-known gay Christian author Matthew Vines, which claims that use of the term "queer" has threatened the existence of legalized gay...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/embracing-queer-despite-the-cisgender-white-male-complaints-of-matthew-vines</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a4530c05af2dd52aa9658f0</guid><pubDate>Wed, 01 Jul 2026 21:20:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_0e598628e4e44540b822f66458b28f61~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_878,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ally Heroes: Meet Mama Bears founder Liz Dyer]]></title><description><![CDATA[The LGBTQIA+ community has always needed allies, and today we're celebrating someone who's had a profound impact of the lives of thousands of individuals. Meet Liz Dyer (she/her) founder of the wonderful  organization known as Real Mama Bears. Read on to be inspired and encouraged. Hello Liz! We met about a decade ago through our work in the Where True Love Is movement, and have watched your efforts with deep appreciation. Thanks so much for agreeing to chat with us about your experiences as...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/ally-heroes-meet-mama-bears-founder-liz-dyer</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a3ea0e7ad71d3b68767fdc5</guid><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 15:30:46 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_6c4aff7747ea4501b70eebde2169f2c7~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_810,h_810,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Transgender Women in the Pulpit: Meet Rev. Dr. Phillippa Phaneuf]]></title><description><![CDATA[Ready for an inspiring story? Meet Rev. Dr. Phillippa Phaneuf (pronounced fa-nuff), a visionary transgender woman serving a United Methodist congregation in Western New York. Rev. Dr. Phaneuf came out to her congregation in November of 2025, and the story made national news. Let's jump right in to our questions. Coming out is hard. Coming out as a clergy person often adds layers of challenges. Did being in ministry delay your transition in any way? Not consciously, but looking back, I could...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/transgender-women-in-the-pulpit-meet-rev-dr-phillippa-phaneuf</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a3bde6072c7d18238c9a6ca</guid><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2026 19:55:16 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_959699cb08964bd3b122228b6db0990d~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_960,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Questions for Queers: Britt Bender talks about bisexuality]]></title><description><![CDATA[Photo of Britt Bender. We're starting a new interview  series here on the WTLI blog, titled Questions for Queers. Today's chat is with Britt Bender (she/they), a bisexual ADHD cat mom, photographer, cross-media artist, TV/film critic, and part time variety streamer on Twitch. She's also a writer on many topics with a special interest in horror, mental health, and art. Thanks for joining us Britt, and for sharing your insights into bisexual life as you experience it. Now on to the questions!...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/questions-for-queers-britt-bender-talks-about-bisexuality-1</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a29cffff8e7e84c72c07102</guid><pubDate>Wed, 10 Jun 2026 20:58:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_8cadbd7156ef41f0a813b177663b9408~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Bisexuality]]></title><description><![CDATA[The passage below is excerpted from Sex With God: Meditations on the sacred nature of sex in a post-purity-culture world. Bisexuality The Hebrew Scriptures include an extraordinary love story between two men: David and Jonathan: When he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and wouldn’t let him go home to his father’s house any more. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/bisexuality-1</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a186d13d715e99f6b9a55fe</guid><pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2026 16:29:46 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_64f69ea3560e4cde8353ec16443600d1~mv2.avif/v1/fit/w_891,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Spanish versions of some books now available!/¡Ya están disponibles las versiones en español de los libros!]]></title><description><![CDATA[We're super excited to announce that a variety of titles by Suzanne DeWitt Hall are now available as Spanish edition ebooks! Click here for access to Spanish translations of Where True Love Is books Throughout the years we've periodically been contacted by people who're hoping to get copies of Where True Love Is books in languages other than English. Technology advances have finally made that possible. Our goal has always been to spread messages of acceptance, encouragement, inclusion, and...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/spanish-versions-of-some-books-now-available-ya-est%C3%A1n-disponibles-las-versiones-en-espa%C3%B1ol-de-los</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a15bf1f96a9edf7cb1ef3e9</guid><pubDate>Tue, 26 May 2026 16:05:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_2f0b83fe79474e9daf517a786e013ebe~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sex Languages]]></title><description><![CDATA[The passage below is excerpted from Sex With God: Meditations on the sacred nature of sex in a post-purity-culture world. Sex Languages Some years ago a book called The Five Love Languages swept the evangelical world. It outlined the different ways people feel most loved and how they offer love to others. Some people like to hear affirming words, others like gifts, still others prefer actions. (You get the idea.) People still refer to the book, and find it useful for helping navigate intimate...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/sex-languages</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a15bb68202a2662aae49811</guid><pubDate>Tue, 26 May 2026 15:27:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_c4bb24ea201248aab3c01c2f0abae072~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Meet Our Friend: The Naked Pastor (aka David Hayward)]]></title><description><![CDATA[A vibrant heart-shaped illustration filled with diverse cartoon faces, emphasizing the powerful message of unity and social commentary through art, featured on Naked Pastor's website . If you're a follower of the Where True Love Is movement on Faceboo k, Instagram , or other platforms, there's a good chance you're familiar with David's work. He focuses on deconstructing evangelical Christianity, recovery from purity culture, the rising tide of Christofacism, and a variety of other topics....]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/meet-our-friend-the-naked-pastor-aka-david-hayward</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69e1493694a0b98ef05f7556</guid><pubDate>Thu, 16 Apr 2026 21:13:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_7918a5549fb64e1a96e5ce7f5739eb3f~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sex isn't Dirty ]]></title><description><![CDATA[The passage below is excerpted from Sex With God: Meditations on the sacred nature of sex in a post-purity-culture world. The Song of Songs is a love poem told in two voices. It’s saturated with sensory descriptions, yearning, and seduction. Saints and mystics throughout the centuries have viewed it as a description of God’s desire for relationship with us. Let’s have a look: How beautiful and how pleasant you are,  love, for delights! This, your stature, is like a palm tree,  your breasts...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/sex-isn-t-dirty</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69d56d3f5a8b03e1472359f1</guid><pubDate>Tue, 07 Apr 2026 20:53:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_394869797370376a636d51~mv2_d_3250_4875_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Queeroes and Trans Champs: Laxmi Narayan Tripathi]]></title><description><![CDATA[“Am I both a man and a woman? Am I neither man nor woman? I am a hijra, so I can access both states of being.” The passage below is excerpted from Queeroes and Trans Champs: 15 Extraordinary People from Around the World Who Show that Authenticity Is Power It is said you can tell what part of Mumbai, India you are in by scent alone. Exhaust fumes from cars, busses, and 3-wheeled autorickshaws mix with spices and wood smoke from street-food vendors. Perfume and body odor rise from the millions...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/queeroes-and-trans-champs-laxmi-narayan-tripathi</link><guid isPermaLink="false">698bab375ce248ef448743ee</guid><pubDate>Tue, 10 Feb 2026 22:16:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_d61ee0e086154a5abe9e986bf1d8ad4e~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Respect Their Name and Pronouns]]></title><description><![CDATA[The passage below is excerpted from Holding on to Hope: Help for friends and family of transgender people. Respect Their Name and Pronouns Until recently, you, your family, friends, and social circles have known your loved one by the gender they were assigned at birth and a name corresponding to that gender. Requesting those people to use a chosen name and the appropriate pronouns is a significant milestone for transgender individuals. Hearing these affirming words after a lifetime of being...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/respect-their-name-and-pronouns</link><guid isPermaLink="false">698ba72e3faa9e439bef7329</guid><pubDate>Tue, 10 Feb 2026 21:55:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_8e765644e8d244cba906e5eef4c3879c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_761,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Holding on to Hope]]></title><description><![CDATA[Has a friend or family member come out as transgender? My husband is trans, and I’ve been writing about gender issues for years. I’ve walked down a road similar to the one you’re on and have created resources to travel with you through some of the issues you’ll face. For many of us, hearing the news that a loved one isn't the gender we've understood them to be comes as a shock and creates confusion about how to respond. If that describes you, you’ve come to the right place. My book Holding on...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/holding-on-to-hope</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6983b45e6a55b9536d4c5cc3</guid><pubDate>Wed, 04 Feb 2026 21:32:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_a30803f03919455ba975a699b737d38d~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Truth, Lies, and the Power of Fiery Flowering]]></title><description><![CDATA[You’re probably wondering about the photo accompanying this post. It’s a hunting vest, with handy little pockets for shotgun shells. I discovered it months ago at a Goodwill Outlet and added some flowers to create a wearable art statement. It’s odd, yes, and I’ll tell you more about it in a few minutes. I'm a homilist at a wonderful social-justice focused church in our area, and the reflection below is based on a sermon I wrote for this past Monday. Here's the gospel reading from which it...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/truth-lies-and-the-power-of-fiery-flowering</link><guid isPermaLink="false">697b8ee24c1c36a19b780ac8</guid><pubDate>Thu, 29 Jan 2026 16:56:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_78ad4e00d85942038502252a21860138~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Write your heart out]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm a writer, which means I transform thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations into letters on a page. The process of molding those things into words and sentences is a sanctuary action for me, and in these dark days we really need to seek out strategies which help us cope. Here are a few ways things writing does: It forces me to encounter what I'm thinking or feeling, and provides shape to what it is. It gives me a sense of control within a wild and untamed universe. I have power over...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/write-your-heart-out</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6966adebf1ba376a5bc02bf7</guid><pubDate>Tue, 13 Jan 2026 21:32:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_b7ae86b208f4405c9c069f81a8821d1b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_670,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Miracle roses. For Danny]]></title><description><![CDATA[Declan and I received lovely roses at our city's Transgender Day of Remembrance event. You can still see the glorious pinks and greens of the petals. They initially looked like basic off-white flowers, and it took a few days for them to open up and display their extraordinary hues. The event was held November 20, and I took this picture today, nearly forty days later.   It's astonishing that they've held on so long. Yes, the petals are beginning to turn brown on the edges, but even so, they...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/roses-for-danny</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6952f4138d18f6f08948e364</guid><pubDate>Mon, 29 Dec 2025 21:49:25 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/bc5b30_9a26c2a7d4b74a57893aca3f96cea6a0~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Advice for those with transgender loved ones: expect holidays to be hard]]></title><description><![CDATA[The passage below is excerpted from Holding on to Hope: Help for friends and family of transgender people. Emotions run high at holidays, and special days on the calendar add emotional complexity to the transgender experience, particularly in the first year of coming out. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are hard for trans parents as both they and the children work out how to view their roles and titles. Birthdays can trigger sorrow in trans people for the years they were forced to hide, or...]]></description><link>https://www.wheretrueloveis.com/single-post/advice-for-those-with-transgender-loved-ones-expect-holidays-to-be-hard</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69442b3f388dd9ea3dbe0315</guid><pubDate>Thu, 18 Dec 2025 16:33:14 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_5336506f5772412d677341~mv2_d_6019_4012_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Suzanne DeWitt Hall</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>