And then people began to read it...
Two proud stacks of The Language of Bodies decorated our dining room table when our eldest grandchild and their girlfriend came to hang out the other day. We'd opened the first box the day before, and were still enjoying the afterglow. When I went to make dinner, they both grabbed a copy, moved to the living room, and began reading. So there I was, puttering around in the kitchen--my happy place--while two smart, funny, empathic people read my novel nearby. It's a bit nerve-w
Holding On to Hope is here!
My latest book in the Living in Hope series is finally out! Holding On to Hope is similar in approach to Reaching for Hope, which was written for the partners of transgender people, and contains some of the same content, but adds information for parents, adult children, family members, or friends. My hope and prayer is that it will be a useful tool for anyone facing confusion after a loved one tells them their gender wasn't what they'd always assumed. There are many challen
We need a new word: spouses of trans people are more than just allies
I was a trans ally before my husband came out as transgender. We were allies together, and have been for years, after escaping decades of evangelical, patriarchal, complementarian formation. Our joint exploration of same-sex love, and God, and what it means to be human led to my writing several books and him developing a thriving online community of people who also hungered to escape and thrive in a world which seems armed to the teeth with biblical accusations and legal thre
Partnering through transition: Managing Shifts in Sexual Interaction
The passage below is excerpted from Reaching for Hope: Strategies and support for the partners of transgender people. Managing Shifts in Sexual Interaction Sexuality is an intensely important part of the human condition and varies from person to person and couple to couple. For most people, gender plays a significant role in how we engage sexually, and so transition impacts this key aspect of our lives. Trans people may struggle with dissociative experiences during sex prior
Supporting Transgender Loved Ones: Creating Rites of Passage
For Declan's 59th birthday (his first after coming out as transgender) I staged an "it's a boy!" party, with blue decorations and male hygiene products as gifts. I also typed up 59 characteristics which described him, then cut them into slips, and placed them in this little bag. The celebration provided a new memory for what birthdays mean to him. The entry below is an excerpt from my upcoming book Holding on to Hope: Help for friends and family of transgender people. It's a